HOW TO TREAT YOUR CHILDREN

Treat your Children Fairly and Equally

Islam has emphasized that parents should be just and fair to all the children, particularly in matters of *gifts and kindness*, and it must not be that while one gets more the other gets less or nothing.

Said Allah, The Most High:
 اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ ۖ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ
Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what you do (Sura Al-Ma'idah, Ayah 8).

A father might give gifts to *child A* because *child A* resembles his paternal uncles, and withhold gifts from *child B* because he resembles his maternal uncles; he might give to the *children of wife A* things that he does not give to the *children of wife B*; or he might put the children of *wife A in private school* and the children of *wife B in public school*.

The child who has been *deprived* will *not honor* his father in the future. This also *fills the hearts* of the children with *hatred, ill-will, and jealousy towards one another* and *sows the seeds of enmity*, and nothing can arise from this *EXCEPT EVIL*

Narrates No’man ibn Bashir (ra),
“My father took me to the Prophet (SAW) and said (to him), “I have given a slave to this son of mine. The Prophet enquired, “Have you given the same to all of your sons?” “No,” my father replied. The Prophet, thereupon, said, “it is not correct. Take it back.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).

May Allah forgive our short comings and grant us the ability to be fair and just among our children.
وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين.

FINANCIAL INTELLIGENCE

The moment you get out of bed and wash your face and drink water (Pure Water Companies) will be counting on you and when you brush your teeth (Pepsodent, Close-up or Oral-B etc) will be earning on you.

When you Charge your phone (NEPA/PHCN) will be reading their meter and earning from you.

When you move from your house  to the office (taxi,Danfo, Okada or keke Marwa owners) will be counting on you.

If you are driving (Filling Station Owners) will be collecting their share.

When you check your (WhatsApp, Facebook and other social media) telecommunication companies will be making money on you.

So before you get out of the house you have already paid all these companies something. You have already spent money.

Let me not even talk about the rest of the day.

So if you are going to bed without making money.

How are you going to pay all these bills???

Do something about your life today.

Start thinking about how to make money everyday.

Think Residual Income. Start with a small targeted amount and grow as you go.

Start with something that will give you a little cash even if it is 10 Naira a day.

Its better than going to bed without making even a (kobo).

Let's Put our faith into action, take risks and start something!

(SALARY) alone can not solve your money problems.

You need Secondary Sources of income to balance.

(SALARY) is a (MEDICINE) for managing (POVERTY), it doesn't (CURE) it.

Only your (BUSINESS) or (INVESTMENT) Cures Poverty.

Let's be Financially Intelligent.

Food for thought

WHO IS A MAN

  Ⓜ Who is a MAN?

 A man is the most beautiful part of God's creation.

 He sacrifices his dreams for just a  smile on his parents' face.

 He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for the lady he loves, just to see her smiling.

 He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complaint.

 He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for his entire lifetime.

 He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife and boss.

His life ends up only by compromising for others' happiness.

If he goes out, he is careless.

If he stays at home, he is lazy.

If he scolds his children, he is a monster.

If he doesn't scold them, he is an irresponsible man.

If he stops his wife from working, then he is an insecure man.

If he doesn't stop his wife from working, then he  is somebody who lives on his wife's earnings.

If he listens to mom, he is mama's boy.

If he listens to his wife, he is, his wife's slave.

If he does not play  he is too serious, stern and stiff.

If he plays, he is a joker who never matures.

If he dresses well,  he is extravagant and a possible womanizer. If he doesn't dress well, he is a loser who is not a gentleman.

If he helps his wife, he is taken for a fool. If he doesn't help his wife, he is cruel and wicked.

Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

Worth to every man to make him smile & every woman to make her realise a man's worth!

BEAUTY IS NOT ENOUGH

"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain

      A little lesson for girls/ladies

Dauda picked up his phone and called Maryam (the lady he wants to marry)

"Hello! Maryam, am in my family house now. You can come over let me introduced you to my mum."

Maryam was happy, she jumped up and down on her bed.

Is your mum at home now?

She asked with a lot of excitement, trusting that  Dauda's mum will accept such a beautiful girl like her.

"She went to the market in town but she will be back shortly. Please hurry up and come over."

She threw her phone on the bed, picked up her towel and rushed to her bathroom.

45 MINUTES LATER

She was seated in a bus. The bus conductor was still calling for more passengers.

A woman in her mid fifties walked in to the bus.

"please my daughter, let me sit close to the door while you shift in because of my load, please"  said the woman.

Maryam replied
"Madam please don't disturb me ok, I came first before you enter this bus right? If you don't wants to sit down inside you better go and find another bus."

The mid fifty woman felt embarrassed, but she didn't utter any more words.
She squeezed herself in and sat down quietly.

35 MINUTES LATER...

"We are at the last bus stop, come down sharp sharp" said the bus conductor.

They've gotten to the final bus stop.

Maryam and the woman were standing under the sun, waiting for  bike.

Suddenly a bike came their way. They both beckoned on the bike man at the same time

"Taxi!"

The bike man took a reverse and Maryam rushed towards the bike while the woman came behind her.

"please, my daughter let me enter the bike because of my load, am expecting a guest soon and I have to go and put something on the fire for my visitor, please." Said the woman.

Martam looked at her angrily and said

"Madam, them send you come for me this afternoon? Abeg ooo tell them say you no see me oh!"

She entered the bike and the bike man drove off to her destination.

She got to Daudas family house, Dauda gave her a warm embrace.

"I believe my mum will like you, who will reject such a beautiful girl like you?"

Maryam smiled believing Dauda's mum will love her, after all she's a beautiful girl.

They were both seated waiting for Dauda's mum.

Dauda's mum walked into the sitting room, and to her greatest surprise she saw the same lady that spoilt her day sitting on her chair.

"Dauda, what is this mannerless thing doing in my house?"
"Ah! Mum, she's the girl I talked to you about" he protested  looking confused.

Maryam was already soaked in shame.
Her hands and toes were already vibrating.

Dauda's mum explained all that happened to her son.
Dauda was so disappointed at Maryam. And that was the end of their relationship.

Maryam soaked her pillows with tears that night, her bad character has shattered her hope.

"Beauty is not enough"

With all your beauty sister, add character.
   

CHANGE

When Nigerians hate a leader

Written by :IBRAHIM MUSA BABA

      Whenever the person I love is in charge, everything is always right.
     Whenever the person I have hate is in office, everything  is always wrong.
     This is no longer funny.
   It is not taking us anywhere.
     When Nigerians hate a leader, they do it in a way that they see nothing achieved by him. Not only that, they do anything they can in order to convince you to do them same.
     Likewise, if they like a leader,  he always is right. The wrong things are overlooked and sometimes even interpreted in a positive way to please ourselves.
I don't know why we are like this.
We know the difference between right and wrong.
      Pride, I guess or the notion of "I am always right, the person I support, can never be wrong!!!...
Everyone must support what I support and believe what I say".
       Please, this is NIGERIA, not a football club!!!.  It is not an inter house competition, premier league or la Liga.
This is about our future, about us!!!
Whenever they go wrong, our criticisms will help them.
        Whenever they are right, our love and support will help them too.
        Why are Nigerians  usually the best , outside the country among others?
We are wonderfully made.

Let's change the way we think too, for a better Nigeria!