Treat your Children Fairly and Equally
Islam has emphasized that parents should be just and fair to all the children, particularly in matters of *gifts and kindness*, and it must not be that while one gets more the other gets less or nothing.
Said Allah, The Most High:
اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ ۖ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ
Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what you do (Sura Al-Ma'idah, Ayah 8).
A father might give gifts to *child A* because *child A* resembles his paternal uncles, and withhold gifts from *child B* because he resembles his maternal uncles; he might give to the *children of wife A* things that he does not give to the *children of wife B*; or he might put the children of *wife A in private school* and the children of *wife B in public school*.
The child who has been *deprived* will *not honor* his father in the future. This also *fills the hearts* of the children with *hatred, ill-will, and jealousy towards one another* and *sows the seeds of enmity*, and nothing can arise from this *EXCEPT EVIL*
Narrates No’man ibn Bashir (ra),
“My father took me to the Prophet (SAW) and said (to him), “I have given a slave to this son of mine. The Prophet enquired, “Have you given the same to all of your sons?” “No,” my father replied. The Prophet, thereupon, said, “it is not correct. Take it back.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
May Allah forgive our short comings and grant us the ability to be fair and just among our children.
وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين.
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